i recon if we all look back we can say we have done regretfull things, but i am sure your other half has done regretfull thing.
i have found that spouses try and make the things you have done worse than what they have done so they dont feel guilty.
Like one of my ex'es did i found out she slept with another bloke and her responce was "well you told me to go and get f**ked"
see i was in the wrong because i was the one who told her what to do (NOT)

glad to  here you are having fun with your kids