sorry cavey but some of it is how you take and respond to comments and yours tend to be long paragraphs and many people then switch off and see it as ramble. I made a statement in this thread and my information was wrong so you live and learn and cop it on the chin but when you get defensive it makes it uncomfortable for people to post
the other is you do promote how many pins you have, cars, jetskis etc and it does get old and you don't need to promote what you may have.
none of us know everything about pinball and there is so much to learn and enjoy, just go with the flow and not assume everyone is having a dig
I read some of your mod posts which are very technical & long but I don't see that as ramble. No one makes anyone read anything on here.
Also, you shouldn't say "many people" think this or that because none of us should speak for other people.
As for promoting pins etc, it's done to share experience and knowledge of various titles, it's not meant to come across as ego. A lot of people have way more pins than me.
As for cars or jet skis, I only talk about those industries to compare manufacturing processes when people bag stern.
I don't have a problem with 99 percent of people, only 3 or so people who enjoy being nasty to me on a regular basis.
The comments everyone has read recently from one person in paticular leave no doubt the constant attacks are designed to denigrate and start arguments.
Again, if people stick to talking pinball and stop the personality attacks like its a social club and the alpha bullies are showing off by attacking people personally, then there isn't a problem.
Yes, there are usually healthy and passionate debates about Stern stuff, but that's all in fun.
It's when people attack others on a personal basis for having a different view, then that's when the healthy debate turns silly. You can't blame the person for defending themselves from the bullies.
You yourself Jady have told me many times over the years you have had enough from the forum because people have given you a hard time for posting a lot of stuff.
I remember many times where you were attacked for supposedly copy and pasting info from other pin sites.
I thought the attacks were ridiculous cause I don't look at any other pin sites so I was extremely glad that you posted stuff because it was informative. But others just attacked you.
You know what I mean, you know the chats we have had and how you were sick of people attacking your threads.
The only difference between me and most people on the forum, is that most sit on the fence when the bullies start.
I get off the fence when the bullies start on me.
No one should ever feel they should have to leave the forum because they constantly cop crap from others and don't feel welcome here anymore.
I have dozens and dozens of emails from people who have left the forum over the years, and some big well known names u never see on here anymore because they felt bullied by certain people.
When the bullies constantly try to upset you and constantly try to make you leave the forum, and u make it clear you are not going anywhere. The majority stop.
Only a small 3 or 4 keep going & embarass themselves like a few have of late.
I have taken some breaks from the forum because of changed personal circumstances or work commitments/travel etc.
but the bullies have never made me leave and never will.
I hope people learn that they can post threads and they can ignore the minority or defend themselves if it turns silly, but never doing a post or just leaving isn't the answer.
Best to fight the bullies and be unpopular with some than to be a victim and sit on the fence and be popular.
I hope people just stick to pinball. Pinball stuff is fun. The personal attacks and snide comments are not fun for anyone.
I want the forum to prosper. I am not perfect, have made mistakes & have always apologised.
I don't hold a grudge. No one should. Peace to all.
