I feel for you mate, is a tough situation to be in.
Have been through the same myself.
HATED the guy i worked for, but strung it out to 10 years of service and quit. Took a very meagre payout and set up on my own. Then my wife kicked me out. Seeing as i was running my business from home, this REALLY sucked.
BUT... I started again with nothing,
My business is still going and better than ever, i rent my own 3 bed house and a shop, buy too many pinballs and have never been happier. Im still fighting the ex ( bag of wasps), but thats normal.
Looking back - it was a forced turning point that HAD to happen and was by far the best thing that happened to me.
I wish you all the best mate. It will come good for you, but being human, we like definates to turn to and without these we tend to panic ( LOL - read self employed!!!)
As stated before - go with the flow and youll be OK.
Good luck mate..
Gavin